Sunday Thoughts: Sexual Double Standards

When people tell me that they haven’t had sex in 6 months or something, my heart sinks for them.

“Oh my god, how do you function?”, I exclaim with my hand against my chest.

“Because it’s been so long that I don’t even care anymore”

I stare back at the person in complete and utter shock. How even…?

Personally, I couldn’t go a month without sex. In fact, ever since I lost my virginity, the longest I went without sex was a week and a half! I just need it. It’s like a vital nutrient for me.

Vitamin Sex.

While I am taken aback by how little sex some of my friends can live without, they are shocked by how much sex I have. I am always greeted with so many questions:

“How do you know if you have had an orgasm?”

“How many times can you come during sex?”

“How many people have you slept with?”

“Are you on birth control?”

“Do you think you’re a sex addict?”

The last question pisses me the fuck off. I remember sitting with my old roommate and her whispering, “Meg, do you think you’re a sex addict? I mean, you have a lot of sex and it’s like you don’t even care about the other person.”

UGH!

NO. JUST NO. NOOOOO.

I fucking hate that double standard more than anything else in the world. What? Just because I’m a girl it means that I’m supposed to walk around like Mother Mary and pretend I’ve never had good sex? And it’s not just girls who are judge-y. I have gotten it the most from guys.

No joke, I had a boyfriend who said, “Ugh, I just wish you would make me work for it more”.

EXCUSE ME?

This was a guy that was constantly bragging about how many girls he had sex with and would send the most vulgar texts to me about “what he wanted to do to me later that night”. Which usually meant us going out and him getting wasted and us not having sex at all.

Yeah, that relationship was short lived.

I shouldn’t even take offense to it. I should ignore those people but I can’t! Men pretend they like strong women with strong sexuality but most of them would prefer us in white dresses and sitting quietly. Honestly, I think a lot of men hate thinking that a woman can have a higher sex drive than them. High Sex Drive = Masculinity. *Apparently*

But here I am, a 21-year-old girl who lost her virginity at the age of 17. I am married to the love of my life and we have sex every day. And guess what? I fucking love it. I fucking love sex.

And ready for the grand finale?

I’m not sorry (or embarrassed) about being a sexual woman.

Sue me.

Rant over.

xx,

M


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